It was pretty funny but it all worked out in the end because we're together now. I didn't think I would find anyone good for me, I was just a mess until he came along out of the blue. I had just broken up with my ex boyfriend and was devastated. I had no idea who he was, I didn't remember him at all until he showed me the message I had sent him. Then like a month later he text my phone. I basically forgot I ever messaged him with my number. I had sent him a message on link removed but I didn't hear back from him for a looooooong time. But my boyfriend did come into my life unexpectedly. Well I don't know if I'm in love yet, but I am falling and that's for sure. As a side benefit, having a full, interesting life has a weird way of drawing people to you.sometimes even people who might make fine romantic partners. The majority of your time, energy and attention should go toward making your life somewhere you want to be no matter if you are single or coupled. Perhaps a more accurate (but much wordier and not as catchy) way to express it is this: Take the time be clear about what you want/what you're looking for in terms of a relationship.but don't let that be the center and focus of your life. And while we sometimes get things we do not expect, we have a better chance of getting that which we actively seek out and prepare for.and, yes, expect to receive. It's really kind of silly to think you'll find something if you're not looking for it. I was actively planning practical aspects my life as if I wouldn't meet anyone - financially (figuring out retirement savings, looking into buying a house or condo on my own), legally (drawing up a will, health care power of attorney, living will). That being said, "the search" was not the focal point of my life.nor was I putting my life on hold until I found a partner. I freaked out a lot of marriage-phobic and marriage-avoidant men because I had the sheer audacity to say that was what I wanted. Lemme tell ya, having a clearly stated relationship goal like that is a great screening tool. I also knew what I was looking for - "a relationship leading to marriage sooner rather than later." I was 37 at the time. Oh, I was definitely looking when I met my husband.
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